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Don't let your faith be roded by those who are jealous or envious of you.
Live your faith regardless of what they do or say
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I have this friendly colleague who always comes and chit chat + gossiping to me on a personal note. Usually for complaints I would just lend a listening ear, and forget about it.
Ever since this friendly colleague was transferred to the same office as me, I started to notice she has a habit of telling everyone she hates who and who, and start influencing people she talk to. I don’t really like because it is causing the workplace to be divided and full of displeasure between everyone.
I did try to talk her around.
ME: Maybe you should try to the person more then you understand he/she is actually not that bad
SHE:
NO ! I am not going to do that no matter what
ME: Why ?
SHE: I just don’t like leh
On other occasion
ME: Don’t you feel tired of disliking / nitpicking on a person day in and out ?
SHE :
NO leh
*super stubborn*
I Give Up. Guess I am not much of an adviser though..
Recently, I noticed she have extremist behavior on her people on her hate list
One day someone in her hate list was transferred to our office. As it’s her first day, we as colleague will bring her out for to have lunch together. Then I saw friendly colleague extreme action, she took her lunch and chose a seat 2 tables from and ate on her own…apart from all of us.
Interestingly, on the way back to office, I casually asked the new colleague
ME: Have you worked previously with friendly colleague ?
NEW COLLEAGUE:
No
ME: Have to ever spoken to friendly colleague even on non work related issues ?
NEW COLLEAGUE :
No
Poor new colleague, guess she have been back stabbed before she came over…..
For friendly colleague, I believe her hate list includes
(1) People she don’t like
(2) People whom she think is friend don’t like (irregardless she knows them a not)
(3) People who speaks / associate with (1) , (2)
I think she is pitiful.
To me being true to yourself by not putting a fake front of people you don' like is fine. But not to the extreme.